Preparing for Sunday
If, at the return of Jesus, you discover some deep seated belief of yours must be given up, or that you will be forced to choose between following Jesus or a be with a loved one, what will you do? What has your highest loyalty? In Luke 14:25-35 Jesus lays out a singular condition for being his disciple: you must hate your family and hate your very life, so completely dedicating yourself to him that all other loyalties become lesser. In this passage there are three main parts: the command, the explanation, and a warning.
Luke 25-27 contains one of the famous "hard sayings" of Jesus; and must be careful when reading these sayings to avoid giving them "the death of a thousand qualifications". Therefore take at face value Jesus' uncompromising nature of discipleship, for not following this command makes one literally unable to be his disciple. How can a person, then, "hate" their life and family? It must be remembered that in the culture of the Bible "hate" and "love" where not primarily emotions but statements of personal and communal bonds. To love a person is to choose them, or be attached to them, and to hate is to be unattached. When we say "God loves us" it doesn't mean God has a warm emotional state towards us, but that he is faithful to us and our well being.  When we "love" God we are making a similar statement primarily of choice and loyalty.
In the same way Jesus is using a rhetorical hyperbole to say "choose me over your family and your life." We accomplish this by realizing, as St. Augustine said, "the transitory relationships which will be superceded in the life to come." And "we are permitted to love", says St. Cyril, "but not to love others more than Jesus." In the next part of the command, to take up our cross and follow him, we see the natural outflow of the previous part. We are to not just follow his ideas or teachings, but make our "entire existence determined and patterned by a crucified Messiah". A Christian is not one who "follows the teaching of Jesus" but one who very much follows Jesus and from that follows his teachings. For many early followers of Jesus this would be very literal as they were ostracized from social circles and chose to die rather than deny their Lord.
Verses 28-32 then form a type of explanation of Jesus' two-fold command. Contained in this pericope are two parables with the same meaning told in two different ways. In both cases we have a person (builder, king) who desires to accomplish some purpose (build a tower, win a war) and a statement about how their preparation, or lack thereof, resulted in the failure or possible success of that purpose. In like manner hating one's family and life, and taking up your own cross to follow Jesus, are the necessary preparations for discipleship. To not do so is to be as unprepared as a builder who didn't estimate the cost, or a king who didn't take account of his strength before war. A person who doesn't have a radical allegiance to Jesus is unable to be a disciple because they have not done what was needed to be successful in that discipleship.
Finally Jesus ends with a command and another mini parable about salt which combined function as a warning. Clearly verses 34-35 are an intended part of Luke's account of this saying of Jesus, though the lectionary stops short of including them. The command to give up all possessions is connected to the same rhetorical point as hating one's family, count the cost of what you may need to give up in preparation for a life of discipleship. The person who has not done this, the one who like the builder didn't "count the cost", is doomed to failure in the same way that salt without saltiness is worthless and fit neither "for the soil nor for the manure pile". (v.35) Jesus concludes with a favorite phrase recorded by Matthew and Luke, "let anyone with ears to hear listen!". A warning that though many will hear his call to discipleship on a surface level will fail at listening by being truly obedient to the call.
Following Jesus requires an accurate assessment of the demand Jesus makes on a person's life to keep a proper relationship to the world as in it but not of it. A relationship characterized by a detachment from all other competing loyalties when they would prevent us from following Jesus. We see this fleshed out as well in the earlier account of Luke 12:49-56 and a parallel of both passages found in Matthew 10:34-39. In the Matthew passage Jesus warns that it's not peace but a sword he brings; dividing humanity from each other on his account. Certainly all are One in Christ regardless of family or ethnicity, but that oneness is based on the new divider of Jesus Christ. Our Christian unity flows from the division that Christ has made in the world, thus undoing old loyalties and creating a new one centered around himself. Just as salt without saltiness is worthless, so too is the disciple who loves humanity, society, family, or even their own lives more than they are loyal to, or loves, God made flesh.
So, in conclusion we return to the original question. Is there something in this world, some political or moral belief, some idea of reality, some sense of personal honor, some social tie or family connection that you are unwilling to sacrifice for Jesus? If so then "count the cost" of being his disciple. Determine if you have made the preparations needed to be his follower and if you have taken proper account of what you are being asked to do. Is Jesus not worth giving up that attachment if that's what it takes to follow him to the Cross? May God grant you the grace to fulfill your decision to follow him, even carrying your own Cross.
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 Jeffrey, 190
 Luke uses the word for "power" or "ability", translated as "cannot" in the NRSV, rather than a simple negation.
 Pilch and Malina, 127
 In classical Christian theology God is said to be "impassible" or unaffected by emotional states. Though this has been challenged of late, I'd argue for maintaining this position. For example, Scripture says that God loved Jacob but hated Esau. (Mal. 2:1-3; Rom. 9:13) This reflects God's choosing of Jacob to inherit the Covenant and not a particular emotional hatred towards Esau as a person. Jesus, of course, being fully human has human emotions as a result of the human nature. cf also Summa Theologica I.20.1
 Augustine, Sermon on the Mount 15, in Ancient Christian Commentary, 240
 Cyril of Alexandra, Commentary on Luke, Homily 105, in Ancient Christian Commentary, 240
 Nolland, 482
 Ibid., 766
 Ibid., 763
 Verse 33 and 34 contain the same Greek connector, whereas 15:1 uses a contrastive. Luke is intending 34-35 to be part of the same story and begins a new one at 15:1.
 Jeffrey, 188
The Rev. J. Wesley Evans is rector at St. Stephen's Episcopal Church in Sherman.